Identity crisis
We finally got started on the process to change my name, one year after our marriage. What a pain in the butt this is! We had to go to the county court house (open only M-F 8-5) during my office hours 4 times to fill out paperwork. First they give you about 10 pages of legal documents to fill out and charge you $99 to file. Then they post your name change request on a board for two weeks and you have to go back and sign more papers and then they post again for another two weeks. Finally you go back to pick them up and then you are done, with them. I also had to go to the social security office and next will be the dept of licensing for a new driver's license. I will also have to change my name at work (email, HR, retirement, and union) and my banking (business, personal, and mortgage) and my passport will have to be updated. My credit cards, accounts, and business license will have to be updated. I'm sure there are other loose ends I haven't figured out yet but all of this and I get to have a new name that no one knows!
If we weren't planning to have a family I would not have done this. It's too much. I have a professional reputation (small but it's mine!) and people from my past will not be able to find me. When future employers call references for "Erika Fleck" my old workplaces will not know who that is. Someone asked me, "Why are you changing your name?" Well folks, it isn't for me I'll tell you that much! I did it for my husband. I think more women will choose not to change their names, especially with people getting married later in life. I know this causes issues for some couples and the bottom line is this: either the woman changes her name or she is that woman who won't change her name. Good grief!
Well I'm feeling somewhat better but still have an upset stomach and fatigue. I got an energy surge last night and started prepping Tribabe.com for the upcoming Beaver Fever Duathlon. I think I was inspired by the arrival of six boxes of beach towels that arrived yesterday (that was painful to pay for) but I have an assortment of colors on hand now. Building inventory is expensive but you can't sell what you don't have. I'll put up some pics of new stuff next week. My mom and sister are coming for a visit this weekend so I'm looking forward to having lots of fun! I'll post pics if we have time!
If we weren't planning to have a family I would not have done this. It's too much. I have a professional reputation (small but it's mine!) and people from my past will not be able to find me. When future employers call references for "Erika Fleck" my old workplaces will not know who that is. Someone asked me, "Why are you changing your name?" Well folks, it isn't for me I'll tell you that much! I did it for my husband. I think more women will choose not to change their names, especially with people getting married later in life. I know this causes issues for some couples and the bottom line is this: either the woman changes her name or she is that woman who won't change her name. Good grief!
Well I'm feeling somewhat better but still have an upset stomach and fatigue. I got an energy surge last night and started prepping Tribabe.com for the upcoming Beaver Fever Duathlon. I think I was inspired by the arrival of six boxes of beach towels that arrived yesterday (that was painful to pay for) but I have an assortment of colors on hand now. Building inventory is expensive but you can't sell what you don't have. I'll put up some pics of new stuff next week. My mom and sister are coming for a visit this weekend so I'm looking forward to having lots of fun! I'll post pics if we have time!
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